Hi everyone, well this in a big controversial question that pops up one where the elderly are better off living.

I hear many horror stories about some nursing homes that mistreat the elderly, unfortunately. No wonder, if you speak to the elders, that they don't prefer to live at a nursing home.

Myself I think they should stay put at where they live at their original home, instead of a nursing home or a retirement home. I understand, elderly people can fall and some require "around the clock" care.

What do you people think?  

There is no 'one answer fits all' here. . if they can look afer themselves well and safely then they stay at home.
If they need care 24/7 then nursing home care is needed.

Some people love being in retirement homes for the company and convenience of not having to care for a garden and home repairs . . each to his/her own. .    

Elderly does not mean a person needs to be in a nursing home. My Granny, now 99, stayed in her own home until she was 92 when she decided she needed semi care. She moved into semi care and sold the old home. She fell in the shower and broke her wrist and was taken to hospital. After being discharged from hospital she was taken to the local Nursing Home to live out the rest of her life. She was 94 years old at that point. She is well and very healthy. Skin and bone (always petite throughout her life) and doesn't know what planet she's on but still alive and I have no doubt will see her 100th birthday next May. My Father on the other hand was living at home with my Mum until he became so ill with dementia that he HAD to go to the local nursing home. He was only there for a year before dying from all his medical problems 6 months before his Eightieth Birthday. My ex-Mother-in-law moved into a retirement home before she was 70 and fit and healthy. Retirement Villages are wonderful places where similar aged people can live in a caring community which is usually secure and behind closed/locked gates. I think you can be as young as 55 to buy into a Retirement Village. My Mum lives independently but within cooee of a semicare facility now, but has the security of a medicall button which is linked to her phone line and alerts the semicare facility that she needs help. The little one bedroom unit she lives in is one of 12, the others having elderly but still capable people living in them. They are a community and check on each other and socialise and have a cuppa occassionally. She has a lady come and clean once a week, two of my sisters are within 10 minutes drive, she gets meals on wheels and attends functions organised by the semicare facility sometimes this includes a bus trip. She is still very much in the 'real' world at 79 with no sign of dementia. We speak once a week and have a great time for 40-50 minutes.
No matter what, Nursing homes are sometimes the ONLY choice and if my family could of taken care of my Daddy they would have. There are also good and bad nursing staff and one guy really upset my family with the way he spoke to my Dad and the way he handled him. Head of nursing was told but when there is a shortage of staff... what can they do? At least my Father was only institutionalised for 12 months and he had dementia really bad for the last 6 months.
So Babes Mate, there are many circumstances as to why some people don't need nursing home and some people do.

Yeah it depends on the person, whether they can take care of themself safely or not

I agree with the previous posts, you cannot generalise on the subject of old people.
My ma in law is 84 and lives with us,(in her own domain),and is fit as a fiddle and still very active.  I know others that are younger that really should be in a nursing home.
It all depends on the health and personal situation of the individual.

On the highest pedestal so we can all look up to them and learn from thier wisdom and experience.

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On the highest pedestal so we can all look up to them and learn from thier wisdom and experience.

I agree with that...

Spot on ALLEYCAT!
Especially since I am now officially in the second half of a century.  

I'm with her ^^

Happy birthday Suzi  I hope it was a wonderful time

Thanks ALLEYCAT!  
With the longevity in my family on my mother's side in the women, I would say I have a big chance of living well past Eighty although I don't want to live to see 100. My Granny has been wishing she was 'gone' since she was around 90-92. Which only proves how very strong and healthy physically she is. It IS a long time to be living. I don't think about where I will be 'living' in 20 years. I would like to think I would be in the same position as my Mother when her age (79). Living independently in a nice little unit with friendly people surrounding me and my two children nearby. Not a terrible thing at all.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SUZI!!!!

Keep it up. Whatever you're doing, you're doing it well.

I don't really think that there's an answer to that question. If the person is frail or ill, a nursing home or retirement home would be a good idea. If the person is still fit and healthy, let her stay in her own house until she can't manage anymore.

Reminds me of an old neighbour back in Germany. She was alone, about 65 or 70 years old, and she was still living in her apartment.

it depends, if they are healthy and fit then thery are prolly more than happy to live in there home, but then they might want to go live in a retirement home getting all the attention and stuff they deserve and a nice quite place.... i wasnt so sure....

yes.... it all depends on your health I hope that when I reach the age where I will need help I can get it, but untill then I hope to get as much out of like as I can, and put back as well,

Is it just a coincidence that the Ads by Google here are all about aged care and retirment villages?!

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Is it just a coincidence that the Ads by Google here are all about aged care and retirment villages?!

That always happens, with nearly every thread. It must pick up certain keywords...

Same with the death thread...the ads were about funerals and stuff

Yep, have noticed that over time. I think it's great to have that link in case you want more information.

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That always happens, with nearly every thread. It must pick up certain keywords...

Same with the death thread...the ads were about funerals and stuff

Same applies to threads about certain TV shows.

Quoted from Simpson

Is it just a coincidence that the Ads by Google here are all about aged care and retirment villages?!

Isn't this what the bot ( Googlebot, MSN Bot, Yahoo! Bot )  "members" do  ??

They automatically trawl for keywords to put in their Search Engines , but also "match" advertising to the site ??

Google are presumably eBroadcast's preferred Search Engine , so their ads appear

this question isn't cut and dry or black and white. i think the eldery are better off in their own home. unless they are unable to care for themselves and have no one to care for them and a carer isn't enough. then i think they should go into a nursing home to be cared for.