Myself, I am not too sure on who should really make the first move when it comes to dating !!  

There isn't an option but if there were, I'd choose "either party should if they so wish".

Quoted from babes_mate

Myself, I am not too sure on who should really make the first move when it comes to dating !!  

looking for advice are we babes mate..??

anyways i chose the last option..

I choose the last option too. And if anyone here is interested...

I don't know lol, it doesn't really matter I reckon.

Hey normangerman, you got green things.  They look good on you.


I'll bite since I've replied in the thread already.  I think that the person who is more outgoing should do it because that's the way it's usually going to happen assuming both people equally want each other... but it would be better if the person who is more... thinking that they need companionship very badly... would stop procastinating about this because worse than having your heart broken over it is having your heart broken for no reason at all because you were too shy

Be persistant

When it gets to meeting new girls, I always feel very shy and embarrassed. Thats the hardest part of them all, getting over that.

I used to be really, really shy and then all of a sudden I became very bold once I worked out that I wouldn't die and that I'm pretty much irresistable most of the time anyway    But now, I really doubt that after being married I still have "mojo" and I'm just a big dork... but it feels good to not have to worry about... not being a dork.

When I was around the age that my avatar is (mid 20's) up until almost 30 I was as bold as brass and I did the asking. Very forthright and open. I have dated all kinds of men prior to turning 29. I almost always did the covert 'chasing', 'seeking'. Never obvious. Never tipped my hand. If I really really liked a guy and wanted him to notice me I was really nice to him and chatted with him but if he was a tad slow asking me out or kissing me when I least expected it.... I would ask him out or around to my place (to go out). These days I believe either/or can ask the other on a date. Don't make the first date a 'huge' event. Just a nice lunch, icecream, coffee is good to start with.

agree suzi - its really up to the person, Joanne proposed to me!

Feel that if you develop a friendship first the rest of the cards will just fall into place, be bold but not over confident.

From experience, I've asked out girls and they havent realised it was a date. Same with girls that have asked me out, and I've not realised its a date.

But then again, when it comes to the first move... ask any girl and they'll say "The guy should make the first move"...

For myself.. I like it when the girl makes the first move, that way I know she's actually gonna show up or wants to be there.

I devised a simple rule when you're meeting someone for the first time... how much effort does it look like they've put in? I mean, have they actually made the effort to look presentable.  

But yeah... I tend to ramble on... who should do the asking? Whoever feels the need to ask!

I don't think it really matters. But I consider myself to be quite shy and timid around girls so I'd feel more comfortable if they make the first move. But that's never happened to me yet sssooo... lol

I don’t think this question really needs to be asked in the 21st centaury.

Equality means equality.  No good demanding equal pay and conditions then expect someone to open the door and pay for your meal.  If it is just good manners to open the door for a lady, then it is just as appropriate for a woman to open the door for a man.

I'd feel absolutely stupid if a woman opened the car door for me for instance. It's traditional for a man to do it even though this is a rather recent tradition. Leave the gentlemanly stuff to us.

chose the last one.. like sure i guess it sounds better the male asking but anywayz who cares...